All products are independently selected by our editors. If you buy something, we may earn an affiliate commission. Giving a quality massage is one of those things that should technically be easy to do: Oil a man up, rub his body in a way that feels good, voila. But when you're actually on top of a guy and trying your hand at it, your thought process is probably more along the lines of, "Uh, does this even feel good?
Because it wouldn't if he were doing it to me. First of all, even with this enlightened advice, you're going to have to rely on trial and error. Another area of experimentation: pressure. For your first few times giving your partner a massage, switch things up a bit to get a feel for what he likes. Don't worry that this trial and error takes away from the overall benefits of massage, which Cadell lists as "relieving tension, improving blood circulation, and being a mutually satisfying way of helping couples exhibit intimacy for one another.
To get the ambience right, light a few candles and put on something that will feel nice if his skin comes into contact with it think a silk robe, or just go nude after some especially great exfoliating and moisturizing.
Have him lie on his stomach, then spread some type of lubricant all over his skin. Begin with your hands parallel to each other and slide them down each side of the spine, massaging all the way down to the lower back and over the buttocks.
Then slide your hands up all the way to the neck, over the shoulders, and down the arms to the fingertips. Repeat this motion at least six times. As you do this, ask your partner for feedback. Start by placing both of your hands over one of your partners hips and then gently pull up towards the spine. Then move your hands to the waist and pull up toward the spine. Then move your hands to the side of the chest and pull up toward the spine. Then put your hands just under the armpits and pull up toward the spine.
