I know, right, so terrible! Matt, Location Withheld. Yip, actually a thing โ and it affects most men at some stage in their lives. Are you feel stressed or distracted? Side note โ alcohol and the use of certain recreational drugs can have an impact, so keep that in mind if this could be having an impact on your happy ending. Jack, Christchurch.
This is a tough one โ the majority of people do just know! Some realise after a month and others a year! My partner keeps harping on about love languages and how important it is. Is it legit or a bit of bullocks? Adam, Wanaka. Hate to break it to you, but there is a method to the madness!
The way that everyone gives and likes to receive love can usually be broken down into the five different love languages โ the breakdown can vary, but there will generally be one or two standouts. If they are often in the mood after dinner out together then they might prefer quality time. Figuring out how your partner likes to receive love can help you get some actual loving in the bedroom. Maybe once a month. The only way I can get hard is watching porn.
How do I change this? Hey Ethan, thanks for your question! There are two schools of thought around porn and its impact with regards to erectile issues. Based on your question, I think the main thing to ask is โ how are things in your relationship?
Are there other stresses in your lives coming into play? My recommendation is to try being intimate in a non-sexual way first, and seeing how you both feel from there. Go on a date. Give your partner a massage. All the foreplay! Put her pleasure first, and see if that gets your engine revving. The older I get, the more of a big deal it seems. Do it because you want to experience sex, not because you feel pressured to tick it off your to-do list.
