Not fishing for controversy, would really love to hear your thoughts. It's an issue I discussed with a few friends lately and it turned ugly fast. But goddamn it's staggering. I had a friend say that her body count is above , and she's just as old as me. I'm a late bloomer, lost it at 23 and really don't have a problem getting a girl every week if I want to not going to, ofc. Idk how to dissect it if I was in a relationship with a girl who has an extremely high body count. For a real LT relationship, I'm not touching that with a stick.
A girl who's been with dozens or hundreds of guys lacks real LT emotional commitment and in biz speak, her 'switching costs' are very, very low. It's well proven that beyond the single-digit body count range there's a much higher likelihood of breaking up later on. Which makes perfect sense. Of course, this is age dependent too. Would I expect a 22 year old girl and a 40 year old one to have the same body count?
Probably not. Honestly the fewer the better in either case, if it's above the single-digits in her 20s I'd be wary. Based af. People can say double standard all they want but in reality it's very different for a man with a high body count and a woman with a high body count. The man has to make others say yes, the woman has to say no herself. If she has a good lord triple digit body count that means she doesnt say no when:. Makes a load of sense on saying yes vs. Which for a guy might initially seem like win-win but what do you think happens after the panic settles down, it's been a few years since you've married and she's getting bored?
In the long-term, odds something like this works out are way, way lower. Actually the research shows a 4X increase in divorce rate between a body count of 1 and 0 let alone getting into a body count in the double digits.
The strongest emotional connection a girl makes is with the first man she sleeps with, and after that it goes downhill extremely quickly. Sure I think we can argue numbers themselves but directionally we both agree. And directionally, I'd feel way better being with a girl who's been with 5 guys vs. Also saw that study. Personally believe number should be as close to zero as possible for the girl you want to marry. Think a distinction should be made whether it was a hookup or LTR as well.
