Post a Comment. Why Modesty Is Not Subjective. By Unknown - March 27, The modest fashion world is one very diverse place. Even among Catholics, the definition of "modest apparel" can vary greatly from person to person. Recently I joined a Facebook group that advertised itself as a haven for Catholic women of all ages to share ideas for modest style and makeup and was hoping to learn more about modesty from my fellow Catholic sisters.
After a few days of being a member, though, I sadly left the group feeling a bit discouraged. No two members seemed to agree on ANY aspect of modesty whatsoever, and the prevailing theme of the whole group was that modesty is subjective, it means something different for each woman and each woman gets to decide what she considers is "modest".
One woman very emphatically declared that she wears bikinis every summer to the beach and doesn't feel that this violates the virtue of modesty in the least.
The same woman also announced that she was never going to caution her daughters to be careful about her dress in regards to helping men avoid sins of impurity because it encourages girls to think of themselves as objects and that men need to mind their eyes. Another woman said she feels "convicted" to wear a tunic over her skinny jeans when leaving the house, but if she's just running to the grocery store, she doesn't feel that it's a problem.
The main vibe I got from the group and not just from this group, in particular, I get this a lot in the modesty world was that if you feel comfortable in it, it's "modest" and anyone who says differently is a hater and is judging you. In the Bible and the writings of the saints, we see modesty mentioned quite often. Women are constantly being exhorted to the modesty of dress and deportment and reminded of what a glorious virtue it is. Philippians says: "Let your modesty be known to all men.
